Men who sweet talk

Something that just crossed my mind again tonight. Men who call every lady a sweet name. They say they're wanting a girl who will settle with them, and they may even tell you its you.


I dont know about other ladies, I can't speak for everyone, but for me--- if I see a guy calling several ladies the same name he calls me---well then in my eyes, he is nothing special. Every man thinks they are different and will claim to be different. Apparently, so do men who say they are godly.


We will have to agree to disagree if you think there is nothing wrong with a guy who calls says the same sweet things to different women. I don't melt at that, and I sure will lose interest fast. Thats IF they even had my interest to begin with.


I'm unique, and I'm special, and yes, I have high standards-as far as morals and values go, and I won't settle for anything less. I'm not high maintenance, I don't spend money and I won't spend theirs.


Guys, if you are going to talk to a girl, and you have interest, and the girl has none in you---but you want the girl to---well any interest you might possibily gain down the road---you just killed it by making another girl feel just as special.


See, we women want a man who is not going to make other women feel special, but instead, we want a man who is going to make that ONE feel special and the other women to say "I want that." ....that is the kind of man I'm keeping my eye out for.


Of course, I wan't a godly man. and some day I will settle down. But he is going to have to be something BIG and special. I have dreams, and I have big ones, and they include the Holy Ghost, worship, praise, praying together and so much more. TOGETHER.


Like wise, a man who tells me Im beautiful, and this and that, then turns around and tells 3-8 other women the same thing----has lost my interest as well. Because to me, that just doesnt feel genuine. I won't look twice again at these guys. They will settle. So kudos to you if that works for you.


Its okay to be nice, and pay compliments---but if you want girl to feel special and know you are sincere, don't go paying the rest of the world compliments, and especially after you get her, others should be in awe of the relationship the two of you have. Thats my guy and I'm sticking to it. Compliments can be given freely---in the KNOW that this one guy is in love with that one woman and the compliment is exaclty that--a kind truthful honest compliment that won't cause damage anywhere.


Just my 2 cents and IMO's for the night.

People and the negativism that surrounds them

It amazes me how people wonder why their lives are so bad and why things go wrong for them, when all they do is lash out or they want to be angry and hold anger towards others, and respond in anger when someone is not nice to them. THey retaliate with hatred. Ugliness. Do you not realize this does not come from above? I dont mean a one time thing, where we all get upset once in a blue moon, I meanpeople who continue to show this.

These same people make me cringe when they say "I'll pray for you.".... The same way----people who PRETEND to be so good, act like theyre so sweet and wonderful, but in reality all they do is lie and decieve and dont get caught (or so they think theyre not caught ha)

Personally, I dont really put much stock into a person who claims to be a christian, but shows through their words and actions that they are for lack of better wording "a force to be reckoned with." (in a not good way) so when they say "ill pray for you....."...personally I dont care if they do or dont, because.......

Have you not read the verses Romans 12:20 and Proverbs 25:21-23?

Grudges are like bricks. They WILL weigh you down. Why let a little situation that will NOT matter in 5 years--stress you out?

When someone is rude to me--I just smile. Sometimes I even shake my head, smile and wave. (yeah it annoys them further ... and?) Sometimes its THEIR fault, like the girl who failed to stop at a stop sign at a 4 way and I was already moving across and she gives me the dirtiest look and the bird. really? lol well i laugh. Im not normal. I dont get mad. I dont want ot be normal becuase anger seems to be the norm these days.

Yes i get "UGH" when people say stupid stuff. or keep doing things and making excuses. or allowing behavior or whtever the case may be--justifying their or their childrens behaviors------- it annoys me to no end and stresses me out. But i look up, i shrug it off and I hand it upward cuz heck I aint got time for that.

I dont have time for those people. In 5 years it is NOT going to matter. Theyre not WORTH my stress or upset. So I try to remind myself that.

It amazes me of people who complain about how bad their lives are, and wonder why the lord doesn't help them. When you pray, do you ask the Lord to help you see inside your heart where you need to make changes? Something we should all do, especially if we wnat to genuinely change inside of ourselves to please Him. We're not here to please eachother, but it is great to set wonderful examples.


Soem people drink to get drunk constantly, lie because it makes them look good (it really doesnt but they think no one knows so no harm done right) , they bad mouth others and pretend to be friends with those people, or tell pretend theyre perfect and they don't do any of these things, when in fact they do.... and yet, they wonder why their life is so bad. I often wonder, if they would stop a moment and look inside of themselves with HIM---perhaps if they ask Him to show them, then He would, and they could say 'ooooh' and make changes accordingly. They may even not realize they're making someone look bad with petty words, because its just a habit of theirs. I see so many on facebook ask "why is He not answering my prayers".....and I wonder why they really have to ask.

So many are set in their ways "if you dont like me too bad." I think this is a sad way to be. If you want your life to be better, you should AIM to be better. Improvement is among every opportunity. There is no opportunity taken away that we cant improve our response, our feelings.

I feel REALLY sorry for people who thinkt he world owes them. I feel just as sorry for the people who think theyre justified in their anger towards others because someone "did something" to them. I shake my head and think "Lord, I am really sorry..." I pray alwyas that He will always help me to search withinmyself. To me its important. I care. I care especially what christ thinks of me. Sometimes He even has to remind me He knows, even if no one else does.

He is my rock, my salvation and my strength. I am made in His image for His Word tells me so and I know I am human, but I need to TRY for His sake, to act accordingly as to what is expected of me. AND try because I want to. Because I want to please Him, and because it feels good :) Is it hard? Yeah. cuz even I make mistakes. :(

I love Him, and I love myself enough----that I want only light and goodness in my life. I have no time for the ugliness that society allows to intertwine them. I give until I can't give anymore---until darkness threatens to reel me in, and then I remember to obey, to step further back, because they think they're walking in light and they can't see the darkness that consumes them. :( I have to back out before I get consumed.

Yep, I would say life is definitly a challenge, and no one said a walk with Him would be easy either, but oh I smile because its way better than anything else. Goodnight blog readers.


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why this mom shudders at halloween

Every year, halloween rolls around. Every year, I feel anxious upon this "holdiay"--i want it to just up and disappear and hurry and pass------a day and "time" that even christians choose to participate in Every year, its a darkness that creeps upon our society. Never mind we have it all year long now with the new zombie-walking dead craze and all the other things...

Ever year, even more so, on halloween Christians everywhere enagage in the "dark" of "Hallows Haunted Eve".... they embrace the zombies, the creepy crawlers and all the things associated with darkness. They enjoy being scared, and say "its okay" they love the dark feeling----which is yes, an adrianal rush but is it worth? Excuse after excuse----of why its "okay." but truly...do you truly feel that light shining when you say that?

I am a child of the light. I love the light. Its divine. I allowed my son to have a creepy halloween costume one year. Yes, just one year. I couldn't do it again. It was a slow proecess change, from football player, and minor things like that, to allowing a one time creepy outfit, to not trick or treating and not even offering candy. BEcause the context of fall festives has gotten lost.

I wanted him to know we should run from darkness all year and that it should not be allowed just because its halloween and a celebration of mankind that everyone deems to be "harmless fun." its dark. there is nothing "light" about any of it. There is nothing good of that.

Yes, I am a mom who dislikes halloween. I choose light. I choose all the good things that come with this wonderful season. Pumkins, the ssmell of fall, hoodies, scarecrows, the colors--all symbolizing the change of the season----no darkness. How can I do anything else? I am a child of the light. The light attracts me. Anything dark, my spirit pulls back, and i love the holy spirit within me. I think I'll keep him.

If I could, i would seprate the two and fall festives would happen Mid october----a time of fun and just good things to come, in the light---costumes galore---but all "good" all of light. and yes, trick or treat! but all in the light of "GOODNESS", no gory, horror, darkness or things that go bump in the night.

arent we here to be set apart? To be an example of Christ in this world. Halloween---is the total opposite of that. My heart is heavy for those who dont want to choose to understand to seek inside and "see".....

Is it hard? Yes. Of course it is. Every year I cringe. Every year i am so glad when halloween is done and over.

I'm just a mom, a human being who just doesn't enjoy the darkness of the world like the rest of you in the sense of halloween.......

(i dont do santaclause stuff in my house either but thats another story for another season ;) )