Dating/Relationships and God's Timing

I will start this blog off with a quote that does not belong to me, credit goes to the author at the very end of this quotation. Please do not take this for yourself, for it would be plaguarism. Credit should go where credit is due, always.

This caught my attention.

"Look, everybody doesn't deserve you, so stop giving your heart, your body, your mind, to any and everybody. Just because they tell you the right things doesn't make them the right one. Just because the first date went right doesn't make them wifey/husband material. Stop searching for it, and let God bring it to you. Acting DESPERATE for attention is not attractive. Not respecting yourself for attention is not attractive. Begging to be noticed is not attractive. Insecure people do that. Insecure people want attention, secure people demand respect. Insecure people brag and show off, secure people are humble. Insecure people PRETEND to be perfect, secure people embrace their flaws. There's beauty in confidence, but confidence isn't about showing off what you got, it's more about being secure in what you lack. Don't thirst for attention. Remember, if it's God sent, you won't have to chase it!" -(Written By: TRENT SHELTON--2013-via Facebook)

As we remember who we are, and who's around us. What we want, and don't want. Feeling of contentment. I feel this applies to many areas of our lives, not just in "singles"...but for marraiges, relationships in families, friendships the entire 9 yards can contribute in this. For example, I quit months ago looking for friendships. Feeling sorry when I realized, none around me that I am actually assessible to, are genuine in person. Instead HE has another plan but was waiting for me to submit. I submitted. I know who they are. Even if I can't see them or reach them on a daily basis---they exist. I must be patient. One day I will be surrounded constantly by what I crave. And remembering always that He provides and He is plenty enough.

Dating? Relationships? ahhh.....Tonight, long before someone posted this----and shared it--- I had a visit with 2 girlfriends----and Im secure in what I don't have. We talked about dating and how---Im secure and content with just hanging out with my girlfriends for a movie or dinner or hot cocoa. I made it clear for me, I'm content with waiting for my God, the maker and creator of heaven and earth, to bring a man to my life. It is his timing ultimatly that counts above all. The only dates I want are the ones with girlfriends. Theyre fun. They're better. One day, because I have been patient, He will reward me with the godly man that He knows I need. He knows alllll about me. All my troubles, my sorrows and my cares. All I must do is be patient.

I may never have been married---and I may have had my moments---but they're long past. Thankfully. Being a wild child or well that is something Ive never been but ive made my share of dumb stupid idiot mistakes, and learning to move past it was HARD, but the Lord taught me I have to forgive myself. We must all do that, and prepare ourselves to become ready for that relationship. What kind of man/woman do you want. Are YOU ready to be THAT person? We must be what we want. We must allow our hearts open for change from above---for Him to mold us---for we are His clay. He is our potter. If we are not open to change, then that is our choice, and we will be dealt the hand of our choosing---without realizing that is what we have chosen. Ultimately, its up to us.

A lot of praying and a lot of refocusing, has gotten me where I am now. More than anything, I cherish my time home with my son. I love it. I enjoy school and focus it gives. God in all of His perfect timing---when HE is ready, will give me the one HE and He alone has chosen.

I embrace my flaws, with love and give them to Him, to modify if its His will. I have flaws, we all do. I've learned so much about myself, about being humble instead of prideful, and I can see and feel the difference when I allow the Holy Spirit to guide me and to work as one with mine. I want to be more like Christ. I want to love others as He loves me. I want to forgive quickly, I want to embrace. More than anything, I feel secure today in what I don't have and I know the time will come when I shall recieve those things I do not have. I trust very much so in HIS timing. The best part is I dont "need" the male companionship---and its wonderful to not seek it. Do I miss it? yes. of course, it would be nice to have someone to snuggle with and share a life with or share with to be a 2nd best friend. Because Christ is my first---my first love.

Now, the story goes back to you. What do you choose?